What does the job market and relationships have in common with the Presidential Debate?

Uncertainty. Why? Because there is high instability in the economy, job market, relationships and almost all aspects of life and no viable solution in sight. Yes, the days of life-long employment are long gone. But, that was shifting over a decade now. Back in my day ๐Ÿ™‚ I had to walk 7 miles in the snow barefoot to get to work ๐Ÿ™‚ lol I was treating my career as though I was entrepreneurial. Each job was hierarchical in salary and title lending to broader marketability and skill sets. Searching for love requires the same level of detail as reviewing a job offer.

You’ll go through clauses in your contract looking for loop holes, right? You won’t accept terms you don’t want, right? Why apply a different barometer to dating? Why not approach dating like you would a job offer? Or are we? Are we accepting any offer just because it’s an offer?ย Personality drives profession and partner selection. The key to success in either area is self-awareness. At least according to Gary Vaynerchuck ๐Ÿ™‚ Are we opting out of romance or dating for ghosting, benching, gas lighting [insert other dating pattern bs here]? For some, sex has become a screener, your genitals have no value, and photoshop is self-improvement. Technology drives dating patterns, behavior and sex. Why not create your own personal algorithm?ย bm2om50plo

Approach online and IRL dating like it’s a social experiment.ย It really IS. Treat dating like you are collecting data on what you want and donโ€™t want. See what combinations of qualities and characteristics better complement you. Approaching dating as though it is testing out what I call, Your Happiness Hypothesis, can help minimize some of your own expectations. Create an equation (just like the dating sites) that includes the elements that you absolutely require (fixed variable) and the elements that you think you want (random variable). Focus just on characteristics, qualities and life desires.

For example: a friend of mine has the following requirements of the men she dates: ivy educated, graduate degree, professional, shared religion, family-oriented, certain age range, & certain height requirements. Physical appearance, sense of humor, adventurous, and work-life balance are not priorities for her. Identify the elements that you think you must have and those that youโ€™d like to have.ย  You might find that dating based on a system testing out your happiness hypothesis, will help you figure out what is a better fit for yourself. Reversing the process of what random pool gets sent to you or selects you.

4 thoughts on “What does the job market and relationships have in common with the Presidential Debate?

  1. I feel your pain. Back in my day I had to ride a mule down the mountainside then fight my through a wolf pit. After that I had to arm wrestle the foreman and if I won I was allowed to clock in. I’m unemployed now so it was all for naught but boy, them were the days.

    1. LOL I feel your pain! Being a man that has to prove his abilities to another is rough ๐Ÿ™‚ The sad reality is that you are not alone; it’s a sign of the times. Able and talented people go under and unemployed!

      Thanks for stopping by and making me smile ๐Ÿ™‚

  2. I love the way “personal algorithm” was incorporated . I do not ever hope for computers to rule this earth in any way but when you use computer technology as a metaphor for our love life, it really makes me think. Needless to say for the obvious reasons (that weren’t so obvious 15 minutes ago) but also for the reminder that as human beings we continusially evolve. In my opinion it’s usually because we have (have to). Why wouldn’t we train our hearts and souls like we were an Operating System? I think it’s a brilliant thought and you are on too something ground breaking
    You are far from a D.A.
    Xoxoxo, Jess

    1. Wow! Thank you Jess! I really appreciate your kind words and support! I am so happy to hear that you found my article to be thought-provoking and groundbreaking! I truly wish that I can make an impact in people’s relationship decision-making process through my happiness hypothesis and you’re just a DA work ๐Ÿ™‚ I agree that we are continuously evolving and adapting to technology in that evolution. My concept is designed to work in conjunction with it and not be driven by it. Some things in life we can’t control and we do have to adapt to it, but relationship decision-making isn’t one of them ๐Ÿ™‚ It’s so simple: I want happiness for everyone that is seeking it. Why not create tools that can assist in that pursuit?

      Thank you for the kind compliment! What made me not be a DA today, was my painful past and inspiration from my career! Love and relationships are complex. I wish that I can say I can demystify the process in 2 single steps, but that’s unrealistic. We are already a complicated OS, we just make it more complicated ๐Ÿ™‚

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts! I truly appreciate it!

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