| The stats on this guy: | |
| Age: | 40 |
| Occupation: | MD |
| Seeking: | Long Term Relationship |
Lavalife, like most online dating sites, has several search options. I met him in the LTR chat section. We had a lot in common, we were getting along, he seemed really interesting and it was mutual. So, we decide to have a phone conversation, where we talked for an hour! We were intrigued and excited to see each other based on a really interesting conversation.
We decide to meet up a week later. Chemistry was great, we were both very attracted to each other, very free-flowing conversation, overall had a great date. He called me that same night reiterated his interest and wanted to go on a second date. Cool. The whole week we we’re texting each other every day. Second date was better than the first. I mean he not only practices medicine, he also wants to perfect a technique to improve recovery time on patients. [You can just picture small kittens at this point]. Really nice guy, sweet, compassionate, a little bit of a homebody for me, but all around good guy. Definitely looking forward to our next date. Finally I break my serial one date online dating pattern with someone who I was very intrigued by.
Same thing: he calls me when the date is over. This time he has noise on in the background so loud that I had to comment. It sounded like 
porn. “Is that porn?” “Yes. I can’t turn the volume down.” And continued his conversation. I tried to go with the flow. Shush don’t judge. But the screaming kept me very unfocused. Doesn’t bother to pause it or anything that might make sense. So, I simply say “Is she screaming?” Quiet, then in a very breathy voice says yes. Nice! “Are you jerking off?” In shorter breaths says “I’m thinking about your ass!” Then cums. I naturally hang up, not because I don’t like a little phone sex. I just like to know that I’m gonna be participating. He continued to call me all night long.
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That was gross and creepy. What made him think you would be okay with that? Did he not think it was a little soon?
He like most accomplished men, think that their accomplishments was the extent of what they had to do. Women are gonna fall at their feet b/c they are drs, lawyers, former athletes (“Kenny”), etc.
That doesn’t make them socially astute! But, they think it does. After all, we are subjected to hearing endlessly about them while we are on a date/dating them.
*facepalm* I don’t mean this as a generalization, but I completely understand why some people are still single even though they’re using a dating site. And allow me to just say “I’m sorry” on his behalf. Sheesh. :-/
Thanks Riis aka Myxl Dove:) We should all have your fortune! You both need to be on a magazine cover!!!! 🙂 The rest of us have to go through this to find our googoo eyes 🙂 But you are right: there is a reason some like to be in the playground & others like to keep it grown & sexy 🙂
One word: Insecurity. It doesn’t change whether you are hiding behind a computer or a drink at a bar.
All the best!
i don’t know ive studied porn for years.. and its done nothing but benefit me in my sexual relationships with woman, however he shouldn’t have exposed you to something so forwardly. Where are his manners?
Thank you John for feeling my pain! He should have had more decency than what he did! He might have thought he didn’t have to do anything because he is a doctor!
Wow. And yet I’m not surprised.
Really? I did not see it coming! Please share your insights. Love your writing!
No, I didn’t see it “coming” either (haha). I think it’s just that men, even if they seem kind and normal, tend to do strange off the wall things.
The part I do not get is…do they know how “in” they are if they would just think for a moment? Women generally need context before sexual games begin. These guys just jump the gun.
I doubt you even gave off signals you wanted this. It’s just something in them.
I’ve heard of other men doing similar things…not quite the porn thing…but sending unneccesary photos before intimacy even begins. It’s stupid and yet…oh so hilarious.
Dating is a crap shoot and kinda bizarre and sometimes fun – stories like this give us pause but also makes us ready to keep trying…if anything, just for the stories. And if anything else, cuz when a good one comes along, he stands out that much more. 🙂
And thanks for the complement…your blog is a lot of fun too. 🙂
Oh, I have had pictures sent to me too! It does create a conversation topic. It’s all shameless! It would be easier if there were a formula. But, no! We have to go through it to figure it out. I like that he got eliminated so quick in the game, though. Made my life easier.
People just need to be honest upfront. If you want something that leads to LTR don’t have rape porn blasting in the background. If you want casual sex, stay out of LTR sections. It’s for mature audienes only 🙂
Thanks for the compliment! Looking forward to reading more of your posts!
What a jerk! I would have at least paused it. Lol 🙂
LOL! As far as porn manners goes, I thought that would have been the first option 🙂
I think the first option would have been to wait until after the call to turn it on. Lol I noticed someone else said it, but I too, would like to say sorry on behalf of men everywhere. We’re not all like that. 🙂
Hahaha! You’re right-not having it on would have been the first option!
Aww thanks for empathizing! 😉 Fortunately, the percentage of these guys I write about pale in comparison to the great guys like you and other readers/posters!!!!
And I thought I had experienced it all! I feel sorry for you that you had to endure that and be disappointed yet again, but it’s honestly a bit comforting to know that I wasn’t the only one who attracted all the bozos and weirdos. They sure make for good stories to tell now, though, don’t they? I wish some of the rejects I met would discover my blog and feel embarrassed for how they behaved.
What I can’t believe is that all these people think that their approach works! All of my crazy experiences had an end goal! They thought that their method was going to work!!!
I hope our blogging efforts helps them improve their behavior and approach! 🙂
The only way he should have exposed u to the porn is if you had approached him in the beginning and stated that you only wanted a sexual relationship. Otherwise he should have taken the time to get to know you, your likes and your dislikes. A women wants to be approached about sex, not be hit over the HEAD with it. LMAO with this one.
I seriously don’t know why he was perpetrating like he was interested in LTR or that he was LTR ready. While I appreciate that men are visual, women are not going to have sex because men are trying to set the stage for it. It’s the other way around.
Yes, your last statement (While I appreciate that men are visual, women are not going to have sex because men are trying to set the stage for it. It’s the other way around.) is sooo true of women, but sadly it is one of the many characteristics that men will never understand.
your rt😎
Holy shit! I’m speechless.
LOL Thanks for sharing my pain!
Creepy, gross, inappropriate and all the other descriptions of disapproval aside, that was quite funny and provided a hearty laugh.
Glad it had you in stitches 😉 The funny thing is that he felt none of the descriptions you used!
Thanks for your comments & support!
Of that I’m certain.
The sad part is that you would never be able to tell by looking at him that he was such a db 🙂
Jeez, you have me rolling. I never getting hear these stories anymore but when I do, I’m dying. Seriously, be couldn’t find the pause button or the volume control?
See this exactly what anyone of us would think. I think he did say that he couldn’t find the remote. But, the reality is that it was part of his lifestyle. he was including me in it to measure my reaction.
I’m glad my stories make you laugh Kevin! 😉
Lmao, me 2
What an asshole! Why do guys like this always get dates, & normal, decent, guys don’t?
Agreed! Everyone has the same odds, it’s just that we focus on the negative types more than we talk about the positive. Finding love is the hardest and the largest pain point for many people, it lacks a formula and has no definite timeframe. All of these factors make the process harder.
& I don’t buy that B.S. line about guys “researching” porn, either.
lol “i read it for the articles” lmao
I feel I need to apologize on behalf of my gender when I read stories like this.
All I can do is shake my head 🙂 Thanks for the support, Derrick! Much appreciated!