Men, do you want Valentine’s Day to come early? Tell the woman in your life any of these phrases 🙂
- I love you!
- You cooked, I’ll clean.
- I picked up something at Tiffany’s for you just because.
- You are right.
- You have my undivided attention. I’m listening.
How about you have a spa day, I’ll take care of the kids.- You are an amazing wife and we are awesome parents.
- You are unbelievably beautiful and I am lucky to have you in my life.
- I ran a bath with your favorite rose petals soak for you.
- I don’t know what I did to deserve you!
Its nice to daydream, men don’t get that any of those will do on any given day.
Hopefully they will read this and say some of them and realize they apply all year long:)
SOME men, darlin’….SOME men don’t get it. Sweeping generalizations are not my favorite kind of fallacy. Ipersonally prefer the ‘slippery slope’ fallacy myself. But that’s a different rant.
Young men–and by ‘young’ I mean under the age of 27-28–have yet to understand there are other people in the world. Once that happens they generally begin to straighten out. Meaning they learn they’ll get more and better sex if they put the seat down. Ditto if they spit out an apology once in a while, such as “Wow, you were right, I really should have stopped and asked for directions before turning down that dark alley where we were carjacked and nearly killed. Sorry darlin’…and thanks for the GPS for Christmas! I’ll be sure and use it when we finally can afford to get a new car! I really don’t deserve you…” and so on. Not all men are uncouth, hairy, self-centered pains in the butt. Just as not all women are perfect angels. Me, my wings are in storage at the moment :> Once upon a time I was lucky enough to have a man who understood it’s the little things that keep oneself from being Bobittized…lost him to a gambling habit–his–but still, while he was around he was real sweet. Mostly. 🙂
I think that’s the beauty of relationships: becoming a better version of yourself & learning how to function in them. Both people grow as a result of each other. We influence men just like they influence us. Just like you said it is great when someone does little things & appreciates the person in their lives. It’s great to know what you want & your partner wants to do it for you!
Ok, minus the gambling habit being his wife-it was a great story:)
I’m a firm believer in, if you want your man to romance you, then you should romance your man.
So true!!! Healthy relationships are about mutual respect, understanding and reciprocity 🙂
Well said stumbelina! We want you to take the initiative too, to make us feel special and appreciated.
Completely agree!!! I think both sides need a few pointers some times:) My attempt to help both sides out! It’s gonna be you or me Chin Up, CHest High to do the male oriented post 🙂
Haha, that’s a challenge? I’ll do my best to get something out before VDay but the situation I’m currently in has thrown me a whole new curve ball to deal with and my thoughts have moved away from what I was expecting to happen between now and 14th February to something I never saw coming.
What? Oh no. Doesn’t sound good! So sorry you are dealing with unexpected drama!
I was just teasing about the post 🙂
I wish you all the best filled with good outcomes for you with your situation. Did you post about it?
Yes, come on over!
Valentine’s Day is like an extra birthday for girls every year that doesn’t count against their age. 🙂
I think both men & women can feel like it’s their birthday on Valentine’s Day! 😉
Well, this what i have to say: I’m always saying that to men, but, some don’t listen.
It’s called respect and love for your significant oher. If you love a woman, if she’s stressed, listen to her problems.
You wil not solve them, but, you get much more if you just say, i’m here for you …
Often is the most simple things in life that have most value.
I don’t care for valentine’s day. For me, everyday is a valentine day.
So, i’m just doing my things, not worrying about a day in the calendar.
I as a man, was brought up by women and that’s why i love them and why i have a deep love for them.
I don’t ask nothing much for a women, just one that wants to share a life journey with me …
That’s it. I’m not the type of guy who dates because he has. I like freedom and if someone loves me back, i will pursue that road.
If not, i continue with my deep love for women, helping them whenever it’s possible and live my life as best i can ..
You are absolutely right White Tiger, Valentine’s Day should be everyday. I, too, believe love is about sharing in one’s life journey. Thank you so much for your insightful comments. You seem to have the biggest part down: understanding and appreciating women.
Don’t lump all of us men into the category that never says any of that. 🙂 lol. I have said, on a regular basis, everything except #3… Only because I’m too poor for Tiffany’s. I do have one to add as well.
When your lady asks you to do something, how about getting up and doing it?!?! Especially if you’re in the middle of watching the ball game. To all the guys that read this…. No game is more important than your lady!! Show her you care. 🙂
But let’s strike that balance to make it an appopriate time. How about “during the half time break could you…” I won’t ask her to do stuff while her favourite TV programme is on so don’t interrupt me while mine is on. Similarly, don’t load me down with a list of jobs the second I get in from work.
Yes, bitter boy, 🙂 it is about creating a balance. Those little things that men might think is insignificant to them means so much to a woman. I think that one of the key issues in relationships is that woman often feel undervalued. I’m trying to do my part for the sisterhood and help our brothers out too!
Pfffft, interrupt a woman while her favourite soap is on at your peril! 😉 It is the same situation though. Sport might be unimportant to you and melodrama might be unimportant to me but we both need to realise that those things are important to us to unwind.
There is too little communication – I think we all feel undervalued in relationships sometimes – such as situations I’ve witnessed where the man gets in from work and the moment he takes his coat off he is presented with a list of jobs for the evening. This was the situation with a family I lodged with for a short while. He worked full time, she was semi-retired… not a good situation.
LOL! Typical guy-can’t handle emotional truths and has to blame it on something else 🙂 You are soo right about what we each need for our sense of sanity! Some of us use wine, sports, melodrama, gambling, blogging to balance out our psyche. The problem is that people get caught up in their own worlds sometimes and forget that the person that is in our sphere on a daily basis can’t read our minds. Everyone has their own set of things they have to deal with outside of the relationship and the people that are in our lives bypass some of the emotional needs of the other person. Some people need silence others need affection when they walk through the door. Apparently, your friend needed to validate the person she once was.(the working one). I am a firm believer that people really don’t mean to intentionally harm anyone. Bringing it to someone’s attention (tactfully) gives people the opportunity to realize the hurt they are causing someone and deal with it.
You, of course, are the exception to the rule 🙂 Thanks for all of your great advice! Too often we take for granted what we have. Losing a person because they felt under appreciated, takes a longer time to get over.
Great post, love!!! I’m honored to have you create the complimentary post and helping increase the dialogue and reduce the communication gap between men & women! Cheers to you!
How did I score?
I love you! [frequently and unexpectedly, every time it hits me]
You cooked, I’ll clean. [I often cook and always wash up. She does laundry. We both fold and put away. The cleaner does the cleaning otherwise it would never happen, and paying someone else helps the economy.]
I picked up something at Tiffany’s for you just because. [When we have spare cash. Get real – we have a baby!]
You are right. [Sometimes, and even when she is wrong. Actually we can afford to lose most arguments, because we are strong people.]
You have my undivided attention. I’m listening. [Yes, but I expect the same in return.]
How about you have a spa day, I’ll take care of the kids. [Baby still requires breast feeding – so later for that.]
You are an amazing wife and we are awesome parents. [So true.]
You are unbelievably beautiful and I am lucky to have you in my life. [Regularly say this, because it’s true.]
I ran a bath with your favorite rose petals soak for you. [She doesn’t do rose petal baths.]
I don’t know what I did to deserve you! [Yes I do.]
LOL! You ranked as the exceptional man!! Honest and on the money!!! As usual, your insightful comments are always appreciated! We all learn to be better partners from your insights 🙂
Here’s the thing – to get and keep an exceptional woman a man has to try to be an exceptional man. If he isn’t already then he has to do the things that exceptional men do. What we do we become. It works the other way around, too. It’s a day-by-day, moment-by-moment process, and we can all do it.
And when I wake up from my daydream..lol
LOL! Hopefully men will read this and do it 🙂
You have neeeeeever met my wife!
=)
LOL!!! I’m sure she would have a long list of things to tell us 🙂
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Lol- take note boys- and this goes with what I’m about the blog about!
Thanks so much for sharing my work! Am flattered & honored!
Lovely lines. But not every man would like to abide by or say some or all that is written. But I look forward to saying them…lol. Thanks for liking my blog post.
Thanks Uzoma for checking out my post! Glad you are going to try some of the phrases out! They work like a charm! 🙂
If you’re with the right woman, saying those things should come easily. And often. Well before and after Valentine’s Day 😉
Very well said, Ned!!! Thanks for your insightful comments! 🙂
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Guys and girls read this!! These are important tips for relationships!
Thanks so much for sharing my work. Truly flattered and honored!
Thank you so much for sharing my work! Truly flattered and honored!!! Have a Happy Valentine’s Day!
Hi! These are simple to us, as women but the ideas don’t come so easily to all men. Too bad. My ex hadn’t a romantic bone in his body. My current is all about petals in the bath, words of love, and encouragement. I kept looking until I found. 😉 Like this post!
Thanks so much! I really appreciate your support and you giving us hope and inspiration! See ladies, he is out there!
“You are right” I think that’s the best one.
lol 🙂 I thought you would like that one!