Author: yourejustadumbass

She is a Behavioral Scientist and Clinician with 17 years of experience in mental health, behavioral science, and public health. She is the author of a very tongue-in-cheek relationship wellness blog, "YOU'RE JUST A DUMBASS", to help people select and maintain healthy relationships and avoid some of the difficult life lessons that one encounters in suboptimal relationships. On http://yourejustadumbass.com, she shares techniques that she developed to help clients with creating relationship wellness in their lives. She holds an MSW from the University of Michigan and a BA from Hunter College. She has been featured on FOX, NBC, HuffPostLive, ABC, PR Newswire and Vista magazine.

What I learned in the past decade

June 22, 2021June 22, 2021 yourejustadumbassBreak ups

I started this site nearly 10 years ago out of necessity! I was struggling with my own poor decision-making and frustrated with my dating patterns. Ten years later, I developed a 6-week system called Your[…]

How Much Does Heartache Cost?

October 31, 2018 yourejustadumbassBreak ups

Love is the hardest decision we ever make in life. What other decision takes decades to get right? And at what cost? Is it your sanity? Is it your money that you regret spending? It’s[…]

7 Things To Help You Cope With a Break-up Or Divorce

October 18, 2018 yourejustadumbassBreak ups

When you are getting over a relationship/divorce, thinking that you can be in a better relationship can be challenging. Each relationship we go through really teaches us about what we need or what we needed to[…]

You’re not dating, you’re co-texting

November 2, 2017December 2, 2017 yourejustadumbassCognition

More and more our digital dating world keeps coming up with new terms for bad behavior. Thought it was just happening to millennials? Think again. My Happiness Hypothesis study found that it is happening across the[…]

Wow! YOU’RE JUST A DUMBASS awarded Top 100 Sex, Lust, & Love Blogs by stdcheck.com

April 20, 2017 yourejustadumbassblogging

Woo hoo! My blog, YOU’RE JUST A DUMBASS, was awarded Top 100 Sex, Love, and Lust Blogs by stdcheck.com!!! https://www.stdcheck.com/top-100.php STDcheck.com, the leader in online STD testing, searched over 1200 sites for the best blogs[…]

The Dating Vector: People Are The New Vanishing Point

April 10, 2017April 11, 2017 yourejustadumbassDating

“So, I’ve been dealing with a breadcrumber for a year. The usual: endless phone and video chats, stalking each other on social. Then there’s talk of a date-that never happens! Then he reappears with the[…]

The Dating Paradox

March 1, 2017March 1, 2017 yourejustadumbassCognition

Social media has been linked to higher levels of loneliness, envy, anxiety, depression, narcissism and decreased social skills. As a Behavioral Scientist, I wonder what causes this paradox? The narratives we share and portray on[…]

Another dating trend that doesn’t involve dating: Breadcrumbing

February 2, 2017March 6, 2017 yourejustadumbassCognitive reshifting

Breadcrumbing, is the latest dating trend and label that replaces stringing along. The New York Times describes it as “They communicate via sporadic noncommittal, but repeated messages — or breadcrumbs — that are just enough[…]

The Millennial Virus

November 4, 2016May 1, 2017 yourejustadumbassDating

Most of the articles and research on millennials is targeted on marketing to them, how we could sell better to them, how we can better understand their preferences, or we characterize the hookup culture like[…]

What does the job market and relationships have in common with the Presidential Debate?

October 10, 2016October 10, 2016 yourejustadumbassCognitive reshifting

Uncertainty. Why? Because there is high instability in the economy, job market, relationships and almost all aspects of life and no viable solution in sight. Yes, the days of life-long employment are long gone. But,[…]