Author: yourejustadumbass

She is a Behavioral Scientist and Clinician with 17 years of experience in mental health, behavioral science, and public health. She is the author of a very tongue-in-cheek relationship wellness blog, "YOU'RE JUST A DUMBASS", to help people select and maintain healthy relationships and avoid some of the difficult life lessons that one encounters in suboptimal relationships. On http://yourejustadumbass.com, she shares techniques that she developed to help clients with creating relationship wellness in their lives. She holds an MSW from the University of Michigan and a BA from Hunter College. She has been featured on FOX, NBC, HuffPostLive, ABC, PR Newswire and Vista magazine.

Do You Really Need to Love Yourself First?

August 3, 2016October 28, 2019 yourejustadumbassBreak ups

That’s the burning question many people had from my last article for the Huffington Post on self-esteem. Thanks to all who shared their stories, feedback, comments and insights. It inspired me to write this article. I[…]

PokeDates: Meet people not profiles!

July 24, 2016July 24, 2016 yourejustadumbassDating

Tired of meeting people only to find that they don’t look like their photos, or age, or height? PokeDates can fix that! PokeDates is based on meeting in real life, sharing interest in PokemonGo, and[…]

Top 5 ironic reasons you aren’t finding the right one

June 23, 2016October 17, 2016 yourejustadumbassCommitment

Summer’s here so people try to blame the weather for not wanting to commit (aka the break-up season). The summer isn’t the reason you can’t find the right type. The reason is simple: it’s the[…]

Why are men so non-committal?

March 10, 2016February 16, 2017 yourejustadumbassCommitment

Spring is near, so I’ve been getting a lot of women asking for relationship advice on non-committal men. If you ask men why they are so non-committal, why they cheat, or why they deceive their[…]

Top 3 things NOT to say on your online dating profile

November 19, 2015February 28, 2016 yourejustadumbassDating

People are attracted to what resonates with them. Online dating is no different. We are treating online dating as we do social media streams; the shiniest object is what grabs our attention. So, when we[…]

Is Tinder cheating on itself? Super Like?

October 6, 2015 yourejustadumbassDating

Tinder has been under some heat lately with the app being associated with increases in STD rates and destroying millennials dating experiences. So, what does Tinder do? Create a new feature called Super Like. “We[…]

5 types to avoid

September 16, 2015 yourejustadumbassDating

The emotionally and financially needy types. Emotional and financial neediness makes you attract co-dependent relationships that, in the long run, don’t fill either of these needs. Both emotional and financial need can be addressed in the short-term[…]

Ahhhh the tangled web we weave

August 28, 2015 yourejustadumbassBreak ups

I have to say that I wasn’t surprised that a site like Ashley Madison existed, but that the Impact Team hacked it for the greater good, did. “Will The Impact Team be hacking any other sites[…]

Single on Valentine’s Day? Dr Ruth can fix that!

February 13, 2015 yourejustadumbassDating

I recently had the honor of being a panelist with Dr. Ruth on Huff Post Live http://live.huffingtonpost.com/r/archive/segment/54dd085d78c90a7445000372! For decades, Dr. Ruth has been offering advice on how to improve our relationships and our sex lives. She is still[…]

Want to get some lovin’ on Valentine’s day? Do ANY of these

February 11, 2015 yourejustadumbassLove

Want to get some lovin’ on Valentine’s Day? Here’s some quick gift ideas to help you out: If you’re looking for her favorite perfume, check which perfume bottles are almost empty. Pick one of those.[…]